When the Private Goes Public: The Breastfeeding Debate
Public Breastfeeding Etiquette: Is It a Natural Process or a Social Taboo?
Not long ago, one morning, I witnessed a scene in a café that made me think about personal boundaries and social norms. A young woman was breastfeeding her baby, and this caused me mixed feelings. On the one hand, it was a natural process; on the other, I wondered if this violated the comfort and personal boundaries of some highly sensitive people.
This incident made me think: where is the line between naturalness and etiquette in modern life?
In Support of Public Breastfeeding
Breastfeeding is not a sexualized process, but a natural and vital process for the baby. Some people believe that there is nothing shameful about it; it is done for the convenience of the mother and child, and it should be done when they need it.
Opinions are divided on whether breastfeeding is something natural or not in the 21st century.
But why is it always the case that the comfort of one person is at the expense of the rights of everyone else?
Against Public Breastfeeding
This woman came to this café many times. Sometimes she comes, bares her breasts, and she chooses the central places of the café, from where everyone can see perfectly. She knows perfectly well that there is no mother-and-child room in that café. I haven’t even seen her make orders.
I have seen many women who feed their babies, but they use either special scarves or special capes so that the exposed parts are not visible. Furthermore, I have also seen women feeding from bottles, perhaps it was expressed milk or ready-made formula. This doesn’t bother me.
I know that it’s not prohibited by law, but you need to respect other people. I go to eat, and not look at a naked body. Also, I think because everyone knows about the importance of such a thing, and they came up with rooms for mother-and-child, so that everyone would be comfortable and hidden from prying eyes, or they come up with beautiful scarves and so on, so that the mother remains active.
I think that according to etiquette, it’s not quite decent to behave like that. After all, I have never seen a woman in a high position who feeds a baby for everyone to see. Likewise, members of the royal family don’t feed for everyone to see. Of course, they have strict protocols regarding everything. Because, certainly, according to the rules of etiquette, you need to handle such an intimate matter away from prying eyes.
In my family, such nudity is also taboo.
Walking around dressed is also not natural; people invented clothes, but we don’t walk around naked, because it’s indecent.
Now I’ll compare completely different topics, but it’s also natural. Some people avoid using deodorants because they’re considered unnatural, pore-clogging, and potentially harmful. And those around you have to inhale an unpleasant smell.
I didn’t feel very comfortable eating. I’m very embarrassed about such things, and it seemed to me that other people were in a hurry to leave.
Especially since there were a lot of men there. No, motherhood is certainly wonderful, but I think that now there are so many ways to cover up when you need to leave the house, and not embarrass others. I know that babies need to eat at a certain time.
Statistics
I looked for statistics on different countries, but I couldn’t find much. Here are some rough numbers of people who are for or against breastfeeding in public.
USA (In Support of Public Breastfeeding):
Women: 56–79%
Men: 43–59%
Europe (In Support of Public Breastfeeding):
Women: 80–90%
Men: 60–70%.
The others are against it.
Moreover, Men are often fine with public breastfeeding — as long as it’s not their own wife doing it. In that case, they don’t always support it.
Such data with large intervals because there are many states in the USA and many countries in Europe. And in each place, the answers are different.
My thoughts
I’m not against natural feeding in public places if they don’t attract attention. Despite the fact that it is a natural process, and it cannot be postponed, I’m still for respecting each other, and this requires covering such places or carrying a bottle with you. You cannot infringe on other people’s rights just because it is convenient for you.
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And what do you think, is it decent or not to feed on display, or should you cover yourself, or prepare milk in advance?
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